What would happen if we actually faced our own emotions? Can we approach our emotions with compassion?
When we are dealing with challenging emotions like misery, despair, sadness, or loneliness, we tend to go towards one of these two options:
These emotions can be difficult, but we can learn how to balance our mental system so that we can acquire the strength to withstand any kind of emotion. The first step towards achieving this is developing our senses of awareness, meditation, gratitude, and compassion.
Then, when we do feel a strong emotion, we need to acknowledge the existence of that feeling and notice its effects on our body.
For instance, if we feel helpless, first we need to notice the sensations it creates in our body. Then, we can check and see if there are any good emotions we can sense in ourselves despite the negative emotions that are also there. Does any part of your body sense good emotions? When you gaze around the room, are there any textures or colors you like? What about the sensations you’re feeling with your two hands? What’s important here is to bring our attention to our capacity to still feel better when we face difficult sensations.
And we need to let go of the biggest delusion:
Allowing ourselves to feel miserable doesn’t make us a desperate, pathetic and a depressed person.
Allowing ourselves to feel lost, doesn’t make us lost, or a messy person.
Emotions are meant to be felt, and they come and go.
What makes an emotion bigger and more rooted in ourselves is suppressing it, not feeling it. And trying to ignore it harms us more than the emotion itself.
With this in mind, do you think we can actually face our own emotions?
Can we see each of them with equal compassion, just like thousands of children of one family?
You need your sorrow as much as you need your joy, and you need the feeling of helplessness just as much as the feeling of being strong.
We are all human. We need to feel all our emotions. Can we acknowledge all our emotions as they are?