I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It took me two years to get out. By the time I did, I was a shell of who I used to be. I had cut off all contact with my family and friends. I was convinced I was the ugliest and most useless person on the planet. I thought I was so useless that I couldn’t even boil pasta right.
We have to come to terms with the ugly truth. The majority of us are pretty awful at comforting one another. This isn’t because we don’t care for others’ well-being. It’s because most of us simply don’t know how to effectively comfort others.