We’ve all heard about how emotional intelligence influences our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Life is an ever-changing process, and our ability to embrace that change is key to leading a fulfilling life. Emotional intelligence allows us to create stronger habits so we can better pursue our purpose. It provides us with a framework to process our emotions and gives us the tools to ultimately become happier in our lives.
Part of emotional intelligence is how we process our emotions and digest information about our inner self through self-awareness. This process is the first critical step to improving ourselves, and to becoming more understanding about ourselves and the world around us. Self-awareness and emotional intelligence go hand-in-hand, since we need to be knowledgeable about our own emotions to truly understand our inner selves.
So what is emotional intelligence exactly? And how is self-awareness critical to forming stronger bonds with ourselves and the people around us? Why should we work on self-improvement at any stage of our lives? Let’s explore this topic further by digging in a bit more on what these terms mean and how they can help us improve our self-awareness.
Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to process our emotions in positive ways in order to express how we feel and to help manage difficult situations. Emotional intelligence includes four pillars, which are:
Every human being, no matter where they are in life, can benefit from increasing their degree of self-awareness. Learning more about our emotions and feelings helps us connect with the people close to us, and helps us reach our goals in a positive way. However, processing difficult feelings is also part of becoming more self-aware. Increasing self-awareness requires consciously understanding our emotions, whether they be negative or positive. When we are aware of our emotions, we can improve our self-control, too — and then we can make better decisions and be less afraid about controlling our own actions or behavior.
Self-awareness is our first step toward improving ourselves. If we don’t understand what’s going on inside us, we may make poor choices about our own well-being. We may feel uncertain or anxious or feel doubt about our path in life. Self-awareness is very important for our emotional stability overall. To increase our level of self-awareness, we should create new routines and patterns when it comes to our inner emotional life. We can start recognizing our own emotions and analyze them without judgment or criticism.
Our emotional intelligence will gradually increase when we have reached a high degree of self-awareness, and are working each day to make our life better through a greater understanding of our emotions. Let’s say we used to be very nervous in the past about various possible scenarios: the fear of losing someone, for example. Working toward recognizing this emotional pattern and making sure we embrace it through a new range of emotions (from fear to acceptance, in this case) will help us remove the negative emotion and improve our degree of emotional intelligence. We will then feel less afraid about losing someone and can manage our emotions better.
Everyone can increase their level of emotional intelligence and thus their own self-awareness as well. We can do this by looking inward and then taking action.
Let’s start by asking ourselves three questions to start with so we know where to go next. This three-step process will help guide us towards a stronger sense of self-awareness.
The following techniques can also be helpful:
We often hear about self-awareness, but we may be unsure where to start to better control our emotions. Emotional intelligence is a core pillar for us to live a healthy life, and it all starts with self-awareness. As we are better aware of what we feel, we are less afraid and more in control of our life, making it easier for us to have healthy relationships. Self-awareness guides us toward building stronger habits to improve ourselves, which is all part of our personal journey of growth. With various techniques, from journaling to meditation, we can feel confident and fulfilled about our personal journey as we learn more about who we are.